Written by Divyanshi Chugh under Dr. Anu Goel for merinews.com 18 June, 2013
Well, evolutionarily nurturers, human females learn the stereotypical gender roles. Even five or the six year olds have seen their mothers staying at home and their fathers going out for work. Even if that’s not how, they’ve seen their mothers both tending towards the children more than their fathers, and also going out for wok.
As much as it’s obviously stereotypical and unfair, the young girl reason it out thinking that our mothers gave us birth, they fed us and thus it is their duty and perhaps more legitimate that they tend towards us. Not only young girls, but young boys learn this. Although, gender roles affect men and women in different ways – both are judged and judge others on the way they conform to the gender roles. The gender roles are anchored in their minds. These anchors act as effective comparison points. These gender roles become differentiated, effecting socialization and cognitive development, when the sexes assume the roles of parents. Children learn that the world is organized, that that the world has defined men and women a certain way. They internalize their structures as gender schema, or a rather unchallenged core belief.
The media, too, perpetuates that women gossip and are bitchy and catty. Whereas men in their personal lives are “bhai-bhai” Because young girls learn that openly, happily or jokinly they are not supposed to be competitive, their natural competitive spirit cannot be channeled into a healthy, positive edge – and this aspect becomes inhibited and goes underground, as per research published on the website psychcentral. What could have been healthy competition becomes a secret feeling of envy and desire for the other to fail – laced with guilt and shame. Thus, what looks like hostile competition between women may instead mask feelings of insecurity, fear of success, and healthy aggression.
We require independent engendered thinking to view, well, everything! All reality is socially constructed, and has an evolutionary basis to it. From little girls learning that they are tandoori murgis to be gatko with alcohol, brothers winning TV remote fight by using force and children being parented only by mothers, the realities today are gendered. It’s time we disrupt our equilibrium to see through them.