Bobo Bolz

You asked questions from Ms. Bobo Doll & she answered!

Enlighten yourself with Bobo Doll’s wisdom!

  1. Why are women the ones who babysit and cook and clean, and why not men?

Ans: Evolutionarily nurturers, women are stereotyped into gender roles. Even as young as five or six, a woman is well aware that she is supposed to stay home with the baby while the husband goes to work, and she has dinner ready when he gets home. Gender roles and stereotypes affect men and women in other ways. Specifically, men and women may be judged by how well they conform to traditional stereotypes. Gender roles often become more differentiated when men and women become parents. Overall, women provide more direct care for and spend more time with children (Walzer 2001). This is an effect of socialization and cognitive organization on gender development. Children learn how their cultures and/or societies define the roles of men and women and then internalize this knowledge as a gender schema, or unchallenged core belief.

  1. Why do women get jealous?

Ans. Evolutionary Psychology indicates that jealousy is an adaptation that human beings instinctively employ for reproductive purposes. Men and women may experience jealousy somewhat differently. Men tend to focus on a partner’s sexual infidelity, whereas women are often just as jealous when a partner is engaged in emotional infidelity. A woman may interpret her partner’s emotional closeness with another woman as a greater threat to the safety of the relationship than a purely sexual relationship, which can be rationalized as “just sex”. Of course, there are no hard and fast rules. Some men are just as threatened when their girlfriend or wife spends quality time with another man-even if the ‘other man’ is merely a friend who carpools with her to work.

  1. Why do women have an innate x-ray machine to scan every other girl from her hairband to heels?

Ans: Women believe that they are superior to other women if they are physically more attractive. Women seem to have a reputation for being “catty” and competitive with other women, unlike how men behave with other men. Because women learn that they are not supposed to be competitive and win at others’ expense, their natural competitive spirit cannot be shared openly, happily, or even jokingly with other women. In such situations, when aggression cannot be channeled into a healthy, positive edge, it becomes inhibited and goes underground. What could have been healthy competition becomes a secret feeling of envy and desire for the other to fail – laced with guilt and shame. Thus, what looks like hostile competition between women may instead mask feelings of insecurity, fear of success, and healthy aggression.

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